Dakota Beacon

Generic Example

The root of this mental illness can perhaps be best explained in a hypothetical example. As a married couple’s daughter is contemplating leave home for college at age 19, her mother abruptly decides she no longer loves her father and wants an open marriage. But why?

The root causes began prior to the couple ever meeting.

1. The mother was date raped by a male college student. The matter was exacerbated by the reaction of the police department to her appearance at the station the following day. They claimed that their hands were tied by the reluctance of prosecutors to entertain such cases. She never sought professional help to deal with the rape.
2. The mother had also been engaged to a soldier who was subsequently killed in war. She gave the engagement ring to his mother at the soldier’s funeral.
3. The father experienced an illness at age seven that placed him in a wheelchair for almost two years. He remembered his father caring for him in public by carrying him to Sunday school during the healing process.
4. The father, after the illness, was often verbally abused by his own father during his teenage years. This resulted in a love/hate relationship with his own father that caused the father to first develop stomach issues and then a serious, if uncommon, phobia, the fear of falling.
5. The father sought help from the mental health profession which, at the time, focused about 95% on prescription drugs and perhaps 5% on psychotherapy.

After the daughter’s two mentally damaged parents were married, they lived comfortably for almost two decades. They had a relatively happy marriage for two main reasons. First, the prescription drugs the father took reduced his sex drive to almost nil. As time went by the mother had become less comfortable with sex due to her past negative experiences.

Near the end of their marriage, the mother, who did not work outside the home, became increasingly depressed and subconsciously associated her father with the date rapist. At the same time, the mother fell in love with almost every man she encountered for any length of time; those men she associated with the soldier. The soldier and her had saved themselves for marriage, so the men she developed emotional relationships with were surrogates for her lost soldier… until they expressed any desire to take the relationship to a sexually physical level.

Lessons Learned

Those who become “caretakers” of the mentally ill often eventually come to resent the predicament, taking it out on the cared for.

The mental repercussions of rape, when not dealt with and treated immediately thereafter, can present many years, even decades, after the crime. Depression and even self-loathing (was it MY fault?) are a couple of the delayed manifestations.

When circumstances in one’s life result in self-loathing, one can mentally beat up on one’s self for only so long before our brain refers the loathing to another or others, usually to the “person(s) closest to” the one affected. To avoid self-loathing, the negative feelings toward the “person closest” can ramp up over time.

What does this have to do with President Trump?

For people who have trouble maintaining any permanent of even semi-permanent relationship, the “person closest” can be the person they feel that their life is most closely tied to. That “person closest” may be either a family member or even a public figure they are exposed to almost daily.

About two thirds of the people in our country (Democrats and Independents) are being taught by Democrat politicians to hate Trump! Those that cannot maintain healthy personal relationships with anyone, even family, are perhaps the most likely to experience “Trump Derangement Syndrome” or TDS.

What can we do for these people with TDS?

We must do what we do for anyone consumed with hatred. We must do the Christian thing. We must first express our unconditional love for them in any reasonable way we can. Then we must do what we are called upon to do for everyone in our lives… we must help them find Jesus Christ and experience the love He has for all His children on earth. Those who are unresponsive to such love we can only pray for.

Love = Work + Courage